First time mum to a mum of three

First time mum to a mum of three

It feels like a lifetime ago that a tiny newborn was placed in my arms (even though my eldest is only 15!). And, to let you in on a little a secret, I am a bit of a perfectionist, so back then I had all these ideas on how everything ‘should’ be done.  While having high standards is good at times, I have become wiser as my family has grown and realised that things don’t have to be perfect. Sometimes just doing whatever gets you through that challenging chapter in your child’s development, is absolutely fine.

I hope you can relate to these changes in my parenting and have a little smirk on your face at the same time. And for those that have one child and are wanting more, make sure you remember that you read this! Because then I can say I told you so 😉

 

NAP TIME

First Born
Must always sleep in their bed no matter what!

Second Born
Ok I’ll get in your bed till you’re asleep.

Third Born
No way! I am not getting out of my bed, just get in here.

 

 

COME OUT FOR LUNCH

First Born
I’m sorry I can’t meet for lunch, my little one needs to have their day sleep.

Second Born

Sure I can meet for lunch, my little one can sleep in the car on the way.

Third Born

Hell yeah I can meet for lunch, my little one can sleep tonight! Can we fit in a wine too?!

 

OUTFITS

First Born
Heading out, hair perfect, cute outfit ironed, matching socks and shoes on and even accessories. Picture perfect!

Second Born
Heading out, hair brushed, clean outfit on, mismatched socks and can’t find shoes… Oh found them. Grab hair bow off the car floor, stick it in, done!

Third Born
Heading out, forgot to do hair, grab random clothes from washing basket, hopefully they’re clean, can’t find socks, that’s okay don’t need them! Accessories? What accessories, who would waste money on that?!

 

BATHTIME

First Born
Nice relaxing bath, toys to play with, music playing, hair washed and squeaky clean, moisturizer put on, hair brushed.

Second Born
Quick in the shower, no bath, don’t have time. Wash your hair and body.

Third Born
Did you sweat today? Think…was it a hot day…yeah you don’t need a shower.

 

MEALTIME

First Born
Dinner, served in an array of different animal shapes. Watch child eat and help them (an hour later done).

Second Born
Dinner, on plate, it’s good for you, just eat it. Negotiations start to happen, child must eat or they will starve and not sleep.

Third Born
Dinner, on plate, if they are hungry they’ll eat it. Child doesn’t want it. Fine! I don’t have the time or energy for this!

PARTY TIME

First Born
Birthday Parties, invites outs months in advance, themed, colour coordinated, Birthday child’s outfit matches the theme, along with parents. No expense spared.

Second Born
Birthday Parties, invites sent out a few weeks beforehand, kinda themed. Try to match child’s outfit to whatever decorations you had from Child 1’s previous birthdays.

Third Born
Crap! It’s your birthday next week. We will just do a family thing this year, it will be FUN! And anyway who spends all this money on birthdays? Do you know how expensive they are? We will have one next year. Next year comes and repeat above!

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Top 10 Time Saving Tips for Mumpreneurs

Top 10 Time Saving Tips for Mumpreneurs

Being a mum means there’s almost no time in the day, add running your own business to that and things can get out of hand… fast!  I’m sure I’m not the only one who has faced a mountain of laundry, prep for a school party, three looming deadlines, and then wondered how on earth it could all be accomplished.  After more than a few days like that, I decided things needed to change and I came up with some ways to make my life more manageable.

Hope they help you find some more time in your day too.

1. Timer on for 15 minutes

Now Go! Amazing what you can get done when there’s a deadline. You can apply this to your Goddess Domestic Duties or to that work thing you are procrastinating over. I find making a pile for action NOW and action LATER works well.

2. Focus on what truly matters

Can that pile of washing wait till later?  Does that bed really need to get made right now? Yes, it can frustrate me immensely seeing it not done but it’s not going to pay my bills either.

3. Create a positive emotional environment

Can I hear you say ‘how do you do that?’ Well, this is what I do each morning: I drop my three kids to school (yes I still walk them to the classroom and get my hugs goodbye, bit of a softy, I’m afraid).  I come home, sigh at the mess, and put on my favourite tunes. Get that 15 minute timer on, quick tidy up, washing on, put kids readers on the bench (so we don’t forget to do them later), put kids pajamas out, and have things ready for their showers. I then make myself a shake or coffee and walk into my office. I feel a sense of accomplishment and I’m ready to focus on work. This is pretty much my routine every school morning.  It creates flow in my day and I can think more clearly, be more productive, and help more people.

4. Multitasking is great but it also can be a hindrance

Yes I multi task and my seven year old tells me she does too! But sometimes we stop/start so many things, nothing ends up getting done. I find I can multitask well when it comes to housework and the kids. However, when it comes to work, being focused on one task at a time ends up saving on time.

5. Set your day/week up for success

Whether you use an electronic calendar or a paper one, writing down, scheduling, and sticking to your plans is so important. And the secret to success in that department is allowing enough time for your appointments, phone calls, assignments, deliverables, customer care etc. There is nothing worse than chasing your tail throughout the day because you didn’t allocate enough time.

6. Make time for you

Whether it’s a coffee, lunch break, or doing a workout, allocating time for yourself is a must. If you don’t care for your mental health, everything dissolves and you achieve very little. I know if I don’t do a bit of morning yoga or take time for a cuppa, I feel like everybody is wanting my attention and I just get tired and crabby. We all need to do something each day for ourselves whether it is big or small. It clears your mind and in the long run helps you to be more productive.

7  Get your kids to help out

My kids are 15, seven, and six. I get them to help out where they can. It teaches them responsibility and a great work ethic. Here some examples of what they help out with.

Six and seven year olds – make beds, put dirty clothes in washing basket, shoes and school bag in garage, message folder on bench, unpack lunch box and drink bottle, sweep the floor, water the outdoor plants, unpack the dishwasher.

My 15 year old is a Godsend and helps out a lot. However, she is home late from dance each night. But I taught her the above things at a young age and gave her responsibilities. I jokingly say she can run the house better than my husband!  But it’s true, she can. Runs circles around him.

8. Pockets of Time

I sometimes work when the kids are in bed. I get so much done in this time. The house is quiet and it’s the perfect time to finish off those little bits you may have not quite accomplished and allows you to prepare for the next day.

9. Get the important things done early

Pick the top two to three things that need to be accomplished and get them done first. Sometimes we leave them till last and we can end up running out of steam, time, or the school calls and you’re left with unfinished work and ALL the stress. The other things can wait till the next day or you can delegate to someone else.

10. Learn to say NO

We get numerous requests throughout our day, and all of them are demands on our precious time. If we always say “yes” we end up giving it away. If those requests aren’t in line with your priorities, then you are usually biting off more than you can chew. So learn to say “no” when needed. Yes, it can feel uncomfortable because we don’t like to let people down and we can feel guilty. But you shouldn’t! Your family comes first and sometimes that means making time for your business.  All mums these days are under pressure, so they’ll understand.

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Quiche in a Delicious Sweet Potato Crust

Quiche in a Delicious Sweet Potato Crust

You’ll never miss a traditional crust once you try this gluten-free alternative! It’s a favourite in our house, even the kids love the mix of sweetness from the potato and the saltiness from the cheese.

Ingredients

  • 2 medium size sweet potatoes
  • 1 tsp of coconut oil
  • ½ onion
  • 1 bag of baby spinach (organic)
  • ½ cup of of organic milk
  • ½ tsp kosher salt
  • ¼ tsp red pepper
  • 4 large organic eggs
  • 2 organic egg whites
  • ¼ tsp black pepper
  • 1.5oz feta cheese

Method

  1. Peel and slice sweet potato thinly. Coat your dish with coconut oil/spray. Layer your dish with sweet potato slices. For the final outer layer, cut your slice in half to create a nice edge.
  2. Bake for 20 minutes
  3. Add 1 teaspoon of coconut oil to a fry pan, slice onion and slightly cook, add bag of baby spinach and continue to lightly cook till spinach has wilted.
  4. In a bowl add half a cup of organic milk, half teaspoon of kosher salt, quarter of teaspoon of red pepper, four large organic eggs, quarter of teaspoon of black pepper and 2 organic egg whites, whisk altogether.
  5. Place cooked onion and baby spinach on top of the sweet potato base, pour egg mixture on top, then sprinkle with feta cheese.
  6. Bake for 35 minutes on 350 degrees

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