I’m not being negative, I promise. The fact is, it’s hard to fulfil every role and it’s absolutely impossible to be perfect at everything. Right?

Some examples for you to nod along to:

You played with your kids and the house stayed a mess. Guilt. You cleaned the house and ignored your kids. Guilt.

You ran errands all day and schlepped your kids around grumbling and whining. Guilt. You did all those jobs and there’s so much more that you didn’t get done. Guilt.

You don’t organise enough play dates with their little friends. Guilt. You don’t spend enough one-on-one time with each child. Guilt.

Your child had a 30 minute tantrum because you made him eat some vegetables. Guilt. You gave your kids chicken nuggets and they scoffed all of them. Guilt.

See? The guilt is everywhere, and that’s just barely scraping the surface of things we can feel terrible about on a daily basis. But guess what – you can’t and won’t get it all perfect, and you certainly won’t get it all ‘done’, so feel free to dump those daily expectations of ticking every conceivable box.

My advice: Don’t beat yourself with the guilty stick simply because you’re not superhuman.

We don’t have backstage passes into other families’ lives. The perfect mum is not perfect. In fact, their behind-the-scenes nitty gritty is as tough as yours.

That ‘got-it-together’ mum is dealing with tantrums and fussy eaters and an overstuffed to-do list. She’s toilet training and getting up through the night and enduring hair that hasn’t been washed in eight days (but you can give her props for achieving a great messy bun).

You only get to see a snapshot, and sometimes a beautifully edited one with a sepia summer filter on it.

So here’s my next tip: Scrap the guilty notion that you’re not as good as someone else. It’s simply not true. We’re all a hot mess in our own ways.

And to really spin your mind, consider this: there are likely mums out there who think you are the one who has it all together. Wild, right?

“I’m not enough for my kids.” Have you ever felt like you just can’t get it together and be the mum they need? Listen up, seriously:

Yes. You. Are.

You, even with all those times you’ve lost your poo at the kids and wished for a hundred quiet weekends away.

Even when you wished you could watch Game of Thrones rather than slog through another school reader.

When you’ve forgotten important school events and random project paraphernalia they need to take in on a weekly basis.

When your kids hurt themselves because you weren’t watching for one nanosecond, when you have to walk away from them at daycare, and when you feel frustrated at them exactly three minutes after picking them up again.

You, you are a glorious, amazing, radiant mum with nothing to feel guilty about because of one thing: you love your kids more than anyone else in the world.

Never lose sight of that. Hold it tight when you feel burdened by “I should’s” and “I don’ts”.

Because no matter what happened during the day, or that bedtime went pear-shaped, or that most of the healthy dinner went in the bin, in the end there was only one thing your kids wanted: you.

One more kiss, one more cuddle, one more prayer, because you are their favourite person. You – as you are, with all your mess and chaos – are more than enough for your kids.

Believe it. Believe it so much that it’s louder than the voice of guilt.

You are enough, you are just as good as other mums, and you can’t get it all done. Isn’t that a relief?